For the last 8 months, I’ve been using a simple phrase with myself:
“No wonder.”
It became a way to welcome a bit more kindness inward.
A way to soften circumstances instead of pushing through them.
No wonder this feels hard.
No wonder I’m tired.
No wonder I need more time.
Recently, I heard someone use a different phrase:
“I wonder…”
And I felt the shift straight away.
Where “no wonder” softened the past, “I wonder” opened the future.
Fear eased.
Tension dropped.
There was more space. More calm.
So I decided to try it — when the next moment felt right.
That moment came with a connection call I had scheduled.
Usually, I have a structure for these calls.
A flow.
A list of things I cover.
Questions I ask.
Structure is supportive — I believe that deeply.
But this time, I chose something different.
I decided to wonder — without needing answers.
I let go of preparing the “right” questions.
I relaxed my body.
I allowed myself to simply be curious about the person on the other side of the screen.
Their business.
Their plans.
Their way of working.
And something shifted.
The pressure I hadn’t even noticed dissolved.
My shoulders dropped.
My breath slowed.
The conversation unfolded naturally.
Questions appeared on their own.
Clarity followed — without being forced.
It reminded me that clarity doesn’t always come from thinking harder or preparing more.
Sometimes, it comes from softening.
I see this often with clients.
Someone once came to me wanting a clear social media plan — what to post, how often, how to be consistent.
But what she really needed first was a pause.
Being visible is a process.
And before deciding how to show up, she needed space to wonder how she actually wanted to be visible in the coming months — and what she had the capacity for.
Only then did a plan make sense.
The same applies to tech and systems.
So often, people choose tools because they’re recommended — not because they fit how they work or what their business needs right now.
Slowing down. Wondering. Checking in.
That’s what prevents unnecessary tools, costs, and overbuilding.
Wonder doesn’t replace plans or strategies.
It makes them kinder.
More honest.
More sustainable.
Especially in quieter seasons — like winter — wonder allows us to hold a plan lightly.
To know our next steps without gripping them too tightly.
To leave space for ease, breath, and nervous system safety.
If you’re in a season of wondering — about your business, your systems, or whether support would feel helpful — that wondering isn’t a problem to solve.
It might be exactly where clarity begins.
Virtually,
Magda